People who are divorced/separated or ended a long term relationship

It takes a long time to full heal after a nasty break-up where you felt totally disrespected and under-valued so much that even after ending things the flow-on takes you to the point where you questioned your own existence and contenplate a 'way out'.

I was at that point about 4 yrs after leaving my second ex (yes I left her not the other way around) in 2018 after 5 yrs of trying and a year after our daughter was born and it's taken me until now in late 2025 to even have the confidence and energy to feel I can properly open up to the possibility of someone new.

I'm 57 in a week, to put it into perspective. My daughter from the second relationship is now 8 and I also have adult kids from my first relationship who are in their 20's (plus one granddaughter).

My now 8 y/o is the reason in 2022 that at the last minute I was able to back off from literally driving deliberately into a power pole at full speed. Nobody ever helps men when they have relationships go to shit - just saying.

I've been divorced since 2016, and haven't lost a bit of sleep about why it feels so empty around here. I'm not chasing around for or after anyone. If something happens naturally...... or (what do they call it now?) organically. It'll be exactly what it is. Fortuitously Neat. 🫠

I guess it’s a little different for me because I’m not getting a divorce but getting to know someone new has been nothing but a good experience for me. Like an adventure 😊

Oh, come ON.

1) Nobody is perfect.
2) This applies to you, too.
3) THUS we are to live with both humility and forgiveness:

• forgiveness for others when they apologize, because we are also imperfect
• humility about ourselves, because we will require their forgiveness at some point

The 20-page list of "MUST"-s is just a silly way to sit on a throne and judge...but it's illusory and toxic.

I have had the love of my life and achieved every major goal we set. She is not who she was, But no way I am interested in trying to take another shot,,😷

I hear you. I've been hurt repeatedly, and doing it over again seems like asking too much of me.

I've been single for 13 years. I just can't be bothered anymore.

I see no reason to go pursuing a relationship again, possibly ever

yep, i will swear off women, and say to myself, i am gonna just gonna be by myself. the universe would always have other plans. LOLOL