There is a great joy

In knowing there are more and more people who are cringing and becoming concerned when they see the phrase "My SO is allowing me/letting me do/buy this thing I want".

If you are waiting for permission, you are allowed to leave that relationship asap.

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MsSwan

If you're married and it's an expensive purchase it should be discussed between the both of you because it affects both of your finanaces.

Is "agreed" a better word for you?

If you want to run amok and do whatever you want then be single.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@MsSwan in the case that made me write this was a woman was happy her husband "allowed" her to buy a few video games. I don't consider that a large item purchase, so if she wanted to buy some and all the bills are paid, that's her perogative.

Obviously, budgets need to be adhered to, but I'm a firm believer in a joint account only to pay bills that each person deposits into and each person in the relationship have their own personal account that has the money that is left over for them to use and enjoy as they please.

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@MsSwan Yes any major purchases should be discussed. My wife and I don't keep seperate bank accounts and all our money goes in and out of one account. It's our money so we discuss major purchases. We never really run into issues where we disagree about spending fortunately.

MsSwan

@FoxyQueen Ok, I see. Yes, a few video games is not an expensive purchase.

MsSwan

@JimboSaturn Ours is in one joint account also.