I have a boyfriend that thinks…

Cooking and cleaning is a woman’s job, even if i also work 8 hours a day.
He doesn’t help with anything at home, not even doing groceries, he always says he works harder than me and he is more tired than me.
Even know that i’m suffering with back pain he won’t help with anything and expect me to do everything like i always do… he also expect me to go out having fun with friends after work or in the week end even if i tell him i’m tired and my back hurts… he is able to make me feel like the bad person because as soon as i try to say no he gives me the silent treatment.

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Miram · 31-35, F

Anyone who refuses to clean after himself/herself has no dignity nor self respect. They aren't equipped to be in a relationship.

He takes you for granted. If he loved you, he would care for your health most.

Ghostinthemachine · M

@Miram this also

Sweetpoison · 41-45, F

@Miram i agree but its probably my fault because i always did everything for him

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

@Miram plus he'd make you tacos. Tacos are love, tacos are life.

Miram · 31-35, F

@Sweetpoison

This is something I have clashed about before, not particularly within a relationship; Just because I consented to doing something for you, that doesn't mean I can't retract the consent. It also doesn't mean I can't realize later it is not what's best for me.

Boundaries aren't fixed because we grow and need different things in life. Right now you need to be with someone who can clean their own filth.

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

@Miram ^ this.

And someone who isn't perplexed by such complex terms as "boil the water:.

Sweetpoison · 41-45, F

@Miram as unfair as it sounds , this is how humans function, they give everything for granted and it isn’t only their fault i guess.

Miram · 31-35, F

@Sweetpoison

His own ungratefulness is his own fault. It is a choice.

He is a grown man. You don't need to shelter him from his responsibility. He chose to be this way.

There exists plenty people who are better at relationships than him.

The only accountability you should be embracing comes in the form of walking out.