I have a boyfriend that thinks…

Cooking and cleaning is a woman’s job, even if i also work 8 hours a day.
He doesn’t help with anything at home, not even doing groceries, he always says he works harder than me and he is more tired than me.
Even know that i’m suffering with back pain he won’t help with anything and expect me to do everything like i always do… he also expect me to go out having fun with friends after work or in the week end even if i tell him i’m tired and my back hurts… he is able to make me feel like the bad person because as soon as i try to say no he gives me the silent treatment.

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Northwest · M

And why is he your boyfriend?

Sweetpoison · 41-45, F

@Northwest im probably trauma bond , i don’t know

Northwest · M

@Sweetpoison

im probably trauma bond , i don’t know

Possibly a family of origin issue. But it seems as if you're not someone who's happy waiting on a guy (some women are).

What's preventing you from getting a therapist, and then asking him to go with you?

Sweetpoison · 41-45, F

@Northwest he won’t

Fallflower · 46-50, F

@Sweetpoison Go by yourself. Text, video or visit a therapist. this man don’t deserve one more second of your attention. Used to be hard to find one but there are now lots of ways to get access to therapists and they can be really helpful.

Northwest · M

@Sweetpoison

he won’t

Should not prevent you from going on your own. What I meant by finding a therapist is for you to go through the issues with your therapist, and usually at some point, your BF is invited. If he doesn't, then too bad for him. Life is too short for you to be miserable or feel short changed.

A relationship is an equal partnership.

Sweetpoison · 41-45, F

@Northwest i know what you meant