Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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Elisbch · M

As we get older, I think we need to look past the appearances but I think we'd all agree that physical attraction is still important to some degree.

For me, a woman I would be interested in would naturally need to be somewhat physically attractive to me but a huge part of her attraction for me is her personality (

character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

)..... I'll add understanding, compassion and patience and a lack of entitlement.. I don't have a particular type of look or features that I would look for.
I wouldn't date online I don't think again. I did once for a short time but it seemed much longer and was sadly disappointing. I'm not a drinker but regardless, I also rule out bars. I don't go to them.

depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

Definitely positives especially if the first two exist and are genuine.

I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

I like to believe in these things, but really question if any of the qualities mentioned above even exist anymore.