Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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AnotherUniverse · 41-45, M

Absolutely—thank you for sharing something so heartfelt.

I’ve lived and loved long enough to know that what you’re looking for isn’t impossible. In fact, it’s what many of us quietly hope for, too. I appreciate someone who is honest, kind, and brings a genuine heart to the table.

Looks may catch the eye, but it’s character, warmth, and emotional connection that truly keep someone around. Depth matters. Loyalty matters. Being seen and accepted for who you are—not just how you appear—is everything.

So yes, there are still people out there who value that. Keep showing up as your full self. The right person will recognize the beauty in that.