Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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Pherick · 41-45, M

I am only 45 currently, but even at my age, speaking for myself, I want depth, kindness and honesty. I certainly want a woman who brings everything to the table. I would be bringing my whole heart to the table in a relationship and I don't think any relationship could move forward if I didn't feel that from the woman.

This is one thing about online dating, I think its amazing to be able to meet people like this, it can open up the world, but any online meeting needs to be followed up with an in-person meeting as soon as possible if both parties are interested.

There is so much about that in-person meeting, so many nuances, so many subtleties, so many just gut reactions that you can only get in person. A person online can act and make you think anything about them, when all you have is their words to go on.

In person its much harder to hide or fake things. In person is how you can you take in the whole person, their looks, their attitude, their personality. Thats how you really get to know someone.