Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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dragonfly46 · F

Attraction is important at the beginning. You're going to need that spark to further that along. What's inside will keep you interested for the longer term. Love, respect, friendship, kindness, laughter will get you through things good and bad that life throws at you. If you're very lucky, when you're both old, sitting in those rocking chairs enjoying your legacy, it will be interesting conversation that will sustain you and at times keep you alive. Because in the end that will be all that you have left.

Btw I've been with the Mr. for over 40 years, married for most of that. 2 kids, 30 years in the same home. High school sweethearts. We've seen and been through a lot. Almost broke us sometimes. I am so grateful for my life.