Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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Punches · 46-50, F

Dating prospects at our age are pretty bleak. So many men just want to dump their load and nothing more.

I myself have not dated in six years, I do think though at our age, at least we can enjoy a partner's company without the s*lly pressures of marriage, trying to appease our families, have kids, dreams that won't come true, etc.

You remember in our teens and 20's how the entire world disapproved of who we chose to love. Today, people just leave us alone.

Be careful though with online dating because there are a TON of scammers out there just waiting to prey on lonely people.

Like these men with foreign accents who claim to be working on an oil rig or a soldier stationed in California. Eventually they start asking for money because their daughter is in the hospital or they are being held hostage at customs or whatever.

AND - lately there are probably tons of AI profiles, so the person exists only on a computer IF they exist at all.

Logybear50 · 46-50, F

Thank you for your words of wisdom. Yes I've met quite a few scammers using dating sites and they are usually very handsome and have pictures of how exciting their lives are. How desperate do they think we are! Sad if there are women who still fall for these type of men.