Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

Well, I’m not looking, but I would apply an appearance filter as a result, if that makes sense? By that I mean that someone appears “good”, “beautiful”, or “attractive” because of other qualities, and without those other qualities there is really no point in assessing their appearance.

Your “over 50” pivot point is interesting because it’s about that point when we men have gathered enough life experience to adjust our score card to align with what’s really important and filter out what’s superficial.