Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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LadyGrace ·

You said women could answer so here goes. When I look for a man, if I were to look for a date, I always look at the heart. If you can love a person for how they are inside, they do become beautiful to you on the outside as well. I don't have to have somebody who's really handsome and especially not with muscles. I want somebody who's real. Honest and genuine. Treats me like a lady should be treated. Mutual respect. Very down to earth guy. That's what I like. And I really am inclined to the big guys. Ones with meat on them and are chubby hahaha that some women might not find attractive or want to date but I do. I find them very attractive. However I do not in any way like this new fad out, where they let their whiskers grow down their neck. To me that's gross. It looks nasty and grundy. However, I do love a man with a beard or mustache or both. I just love the bigger men, as they are so cozy and comfortable to hug and snuggle. I love that. Good hygiene is a must.

Not someone in a suit and all business like. No. Not for me. Just somebody who's not going to play games with me and will be honest and open with me. Basically, my best friend. That's what I'm looking for and I think that's what women should look for, is their best friend, whom they know won't mess over them and they can count on them to not be stupid and cheat. Trust is a major issue, when it comes to the man I want. Where there's no trust and no honesty, there's no relationship. I would never cheat on my man and I definitely expect the same from them.

I wish you the best in your hunt. Choose wisely. Especially choose someone who treats you respectfully and would never abuse you or try to be dominating. Especially never go with a man who has anger issues or a quick temper. Never!

Looks are not everything. It's what's in the heart that counts.

Logybear50 · 46-50, F

I could not have said it better, especially at my age and after being in a unhappy marriage for more than half of 26 years! Physical attraction is important, but looks should not be the deciding factor when it comes to relationships. I just want someone who makes me feel warm inside, who can make me feel excited about life again!

LadyGrace ·

@Logybear50 Are you still in that marriage? From your post I take it you're not and I hope you're not. I went through that same thing. Abuse for 34 years. Boy, if I had to do life over again, it'd be SO much different. But then I wouldn't want to. hahaha I'm sorry you went through all that too.

Logybear50 · 46-50, F

Unfortunately yes, but I desperately want out!

LadyGrace ·

@Logybear50 You must, please. Do you have a plan in place?

Logybear50 · 46-50, F

Will chat again later

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