Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

I value all of that.

As for looks: one cannot necessarily control aging. Nothing to be ashamed of. I am an old man and am not handsome. I never was. And I have health problems, and body parts are malfunctioning. It is what it is. Some of it is my fault, I did not take good enough care of myself. Some is just bad luck.

Of course, one can practice good hygiene, take care of one's hair, dress well, exercise. But I am not good at any of that, and never worried much about it, so would not expect it of others. Other than perhaps showering and not stinking, LOL!

Actually, I prefer unscented people. Some women and even some men overdo it when it comes to fragrances. They should not make me gag. Also, I do not find makeup attractive. I just think of all those oils and creams and hope none of them touch my skin! Yuck. So I hope if I ever meet a lady she kisses me without lipstick! I do not want that stuff on me!

What worries me more is personality: if she wants me to change too much, nags me, etc., then she should look elsewhere. I am what I am and she should be who she is. Of course she and I can meet in the middle. Yet it has to natural, nice, and fun.

I do not deny I am attracted to young women. I am a male of the species. That is how I am wired. But lust is separate from love, at least to me.

But what do I know? I have been single all my life.

Logybear50 · 46-50, FNew

You would be my perpect man in some ways and with enough love and respect....wow!!

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

@Logybear50

Thanks for the compliment!