Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

I will try to give you an honest and self-aware answer.

Looks have often been part of what gets me interested in a person - whether as a potential lover or as a friend.

Looks become less important as a connection deepens and a relationship continues. My appreciation for the person grows to include all kinds of things about them that I didn't even know about before.

Since you are looking for a boyfriend, I will mention that smart men know that being good in bed has little to do with looks.

However, looks are part of who a person is and how they express themselves. Someone who lives an active life and/or has an exercise routine will probably look better (to most people, anyway) than someone who is out of shape because of being sedentary. Someone with an expressive face and a nice smile (which does not require perfect teeth!), will look better than someone who is glum or bored looking all the time.

And regardless of a person's face and physique, how they dress can make a huge difference. A colourful or creative or stylish way of dressing (which may or may not include makeup, and jewellery) is a huge part of a person's looks, and expresses an interesting personality.

Do men only care about looks? No. Do looks matter? Yes. Does that mean a person who isn't conventionally beautiful or sexy looking is out of luck? No.

I hope you find what (and who) you are looking for.