When you are poly and they hit you with the "does your husband know we talk"

..... Yes yes he does .... Because I'm not a terrible person who goes behind my loves back 🤷

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Katie01 · F

Having fun without your partner doesn't make you a terrible person. Growing up is realising EVERYBODY cheats

thechik96 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 going behind their back does though

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

@Katie01 In my book it isn't cheating if it's being done with informed consent.

It's not the sex that makes it cheating. It's the dishonesty and betrayal of trust.

Katie01 · F

@ViciDraco lying is a natural and healthy part of a relationship. Being fully honest about everything can get very toxic very quickly

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

@Katie01 It is not natural and healthy at the point of cheating.

Katie01 · F

@ViciDraco it absolutely is

thechik96 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 you can't honestly believe honesty isn't a virtue in a relationship.

Katie01 · F

@thechik96 of course honestly is important, but there needs to be a healthy mix of honestly and dishonesty. If you're honest and open about everything with your partner, they can easily use that information to control you

thechik96 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 if you stay with someone willing to try to control you that's an issue..... If they try to control you leave.

Katie01 · F

@thechik96 exactly. It's not good. Lying is the best way to avoid that

thechik96 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 no... Finding a partner who isn't a bag of trash is the best way to avoid it