Is it wrong for me to ask my girlfriend to delete her exes off of facebook?
She is pissed about it. If I am in the wrong I can apologize and she can keep her ex boyfriends as friends
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Elisbch · M
imho... it's about benefits.
People want to see and require benefits coming to them. Benefits come with expectations. There is a benefit or benefits why your girl is with you right now. There's also a benefit to her why she keeps her exes on Facebook or anywhere else. When the benefit diminishes or is no longer a benefit, she moves on. Don't drive yourself crazy over this. People will come and go from your life because of lack of benefits (and expectations) . The one exception is a very true and loyal friend. If they are a true friend, they don't rely on benefits to stay around. The benefits she sees in you are most likely different from the benefits her ex has. If the benefits of her exes don't meet her expectations they won't be around long, she'll leave them behind. And the same goes for you. Basically when the benefits cease, they leave. The best thing to do (in the back of your mind) is always expect someone to leave. They're only going to be in your life temporarily. It's best to have good friends and to be able to rely on yourself for anything you need and not someone else.
If she's telling you who you can have on Facebook and you're not allowed to say anything to her about her exes, that's not a two-way street. Once she sets down the rule of a double standard, you will never be equal and more than likely it'll naw at you. Sooner or later that relationship is going to end. Sooner than later. Keep a close eye on your expectations and keep them in check.
Good luck
People want to see and require benefits coming to them. Benefits come with expectations. There is a benefit or benefits why your girl is with you right now. There's also a benefit to her why she keeps her exes on Facebook or anywhere else. When the benefit diminishes or is no longer a benefit, she moves on. Don't drive yourself crazy over this. People will come and go from your life because of lack of benefits (and expectations) . The one exception is a very true and loyal friend. If they are a true friend, they don't rely on benefits to stay around. The benefits she sees in you are most likely different from the benefits her ex has. If the benefits of her exes don't meet her expectations they won't be around long, she'll leave them behind. And the same goes for you. Basically when the benefits cease, they leave. The best thing to do (in the back of your mind) is always expect someone to leave. They're only going to be in your life temporarily. It's best to have good friends and to be able to rely on yourself for anything you need and not someone else.
If she's telling you who you can have on Facebook and you're not allowed to say anything to her about her exes, that's not a two-way street. Once she sets down the rule of a double standard, you will never be equal and more than likely it'll naw at you. Sooner or later that relationship is going to end. Sooner than later. Keep a close eye on your expectations and keep them in check.
Good luck