The Ball Is In Her Court

So, after not hearing from my girlfriend in nearly two weeks, and being that I owe her money, I was finally able to at least get the ball rolling with paying her off this morning.

After I Zelle'd her the money I texted her simply to notify her that she should see the money, and I requested for her to at the very least confirm that she received it. Since we're supposed to go away next week I told her that if I don't hear from her by Monday I'm going to have to assume the trip isn't happening and I'll cancel our hotel reservation before it goes through.

I know she read the text. It's only 10:18am where I am, so I'm doing my best to not make myself overly nervous, as she's usually at work until 5 and I remember there's a LOT going on there.

While I'm feeling somewhat better than I've been, and while I'm trying to be calm and pragmatic about things, five years of the most special relationship I've ever been in is a scary thing for me to lose.

UPDATE:

After I wrote on this, she responded to me, thanking me for the money and requesting we speak either tomorrow or Sunday, to which I agreed.

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RedBaron · M

I think no answer is your answer.

It’s not a great idea to be owing someone money early in a relationship before there’s any commitment.

GymRat584 · 41-45, M

@RedBaron we've actually been together for more than five years my friend.

RedBaron · M

@GymRat584 Doesn’t sound like it.

Who dates for that long without at least moving in together and maybe getting engaged/married?

GymRat584 · 41-45, M

@RedBaron those are circumstances that are between her and I, and are of no one else's concern. You included!

RedBaron · M

@GymRat584 Of course, I understand that.

But I can’t help wonder how solid the ground is for the relationship after that much time without commitment.

GymRat584 · 41-45, M

@RedBaron I pondered that myself at times, I admit that. But she has her reasons and I have to respect that. Also, for where I work location wise, moving in with her would not be feasible. However, if you love someone, I mean truly CONNECT with them on ALL LEVELS the way we did at the time, then it'll somehow work itself out.