I was rejected

I feel so hollow. This happened over a year ago. I felt completely better and got my confidence back. But recently something came up regarding this person and I am in hollow agony again. I feel silly for even feeling this way. I don't know why. I use to think he was an amazing person. I feel maybe like he just wanted something from me and that's it.
I hate the pain that I feel. Why does this feel worse than marriage pain. I don't want to feel anything any more

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DoubleRings · 51-55, F

I get it. One time I was quietly rejected after having a great date with this guy I was really fond of. He was friends with some of my friends and family members (one of them actually set us up) and we were both the same culture too so we had lots in common. I thought I hit the jackpot cause he was so awesome - a gentleman for once - and also, he seemed to think I was awesome too. He even asked me out on another date right after the first and then we never went on the date and basically I never heard from him again. It was perplexing and kind of hurtful, so I tried a couple times to communicate with him without being pushy. He didn’t respond and seemed rather disconnected so I dropped it.

That was 11 years ago and I’m married now but it still makes me wonder wtf happened. Like, what did I do wrong???