You are entitled to privacy in a relationship, right?
Someone told me there is no such thing, only OUR privacy. Im not talking about cheating here.
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Miram · 31-35, F
I once gotten broken up with because I didn't want to share my past. That's what he said. But in truth it was because I didn't want to have sex. I believed in settling in the same home before getting there. I was in medical school. Reflecting on extremely traumatic experiences wasn't the time. I will never forget that not because I was in love with him, but because I was present in his kid's life and his child called me mother and already formed attachment to my siblings. Before he broke up with me, he told his kid to no longer talk to me and my family. I felt crushed.
He came back 4 months later to apologize and ask if I can be emotionally open. I just looked at him, didn't say a word and walked away. I was selling myself too short. He was more 15 years older, had a past in the porn industry and 2 failed marriages. I had zero physical dating experiences. 0000000 so what business did he even have trying to dig my past against my will?
These people, their lack of boundaries, it is predatory and it is essentially about one thing. You losing control over them having it.
He came back 4 months later to apologize and ask if I can be emotionally open. I just looked at him, didn't say a word and walked away. I was selling myself too short. He was more 15 years older, had a past in the porn industry and 2 failed marriages. I had zero physical dating experiences. 0000000 so what business did he even have trying to dig my past against my will?
These people, their lack of boundaries, it is predatory and it is essentially about one thing. You losing control over them having it.
Miram · 31-35, F
@Kuronekko Yes, everyone have insecurities.
It is never okay to throw yours on the shoulders of another to sabotage their growth and your own. Bulldoze their comfort and invade..To explain your own pace and deal with them as feelings? That's healthy. The minute those explanations become justifications to pressure and clash, it ends there. If you have to cage someone in your own fears to have them, it is not love.
It is never okay to throw yours on the shoulders of another to sabotage their growth and your own. Bulldoze their comfort and invade..To explain your own pace and deal with them as feelings? That's healthy. The minute those explanations become justifications to pressure and clash, it ends there. If you have to cage someone in your own fears to have them, it is not love.