I wrote a goodbye letter to my ex I couldn't get over for a year. I feel so much better

Exactly! You are a very wise woman. You did exactly as I did. I wrote a long letter and said everything I needed to say and I took it out to the trash bin and burnt it that my feelings and petition for healing would be symbolized in the burning of it and letting it rise to heaven before God. It was very healing and finalizing. I didn't need to send it and I didn't need to write negative or ugly words to anyone. I only needed closure for myself that I would never get from him or confession that he lied to me so bad. I didn't need that. I made my own closure, stood up for myself, respected myself and that was enough. That's a true sign of closure and maturity and you have displayed that. I could not be more proud of you my dear.