I wrote a goodbye letter to my ex I couldn't get over for a year. I feel so much better

Honey you will get through this and you will heal from this. I went through the exact same thing and it broke my heart but after a year and 3 months of grieving what he did to me and lying to me, I did recover and then was able to look back and say, what in the world was I thinking? Why did I like this man? 😂😂 It took me a year and 3 months to rethink things and put things in perspective and tell myself the truth. Not what I wanted to believe but what was actually the truth and I had to do that because it left me with PTSD which I was able to heal myself from by telling myself the truth. The truth sets you free. A lady friend of mine was going through the same thing at the time and we worked with each other and helped each other get through it and over our PTSD. It can be done. The key is to tell ourselves the truth. If we love ourselves we will tell ourselves the truth. I am so happy that I broke up with that person. He was so toxic. Once I worked my way to the other side, I was so happy and I was able to help others because of that. When someone says they love you but they're lying to you, they're just truthfully wanting to use you and being a narcissist, the truth of the matter is they don't know what love is so they can't love. They know what they're doing when they hurt you and lie to you. The truth is they are emotionally unavailable. That should never be forced. I know narcissists inside and out. They do not know what love is. Not because they're stupid, but because they're alter ego has taken over and they want nothing to do with real love. Love to them is ONLY about control. Their definition of Love is always control.