Mommy Issues

My boyfriend mom stresses me out. She calls wanting him to do stuff for her everyday. She fusses at him about how we raise our kids and i feel we do a great job. She's always in our business she calls almost 5 times a day. Its starting to get annoying. I dont know how much more i can take. I want to say something to her but she doesn't understand I've been keeping my cool. What should i do ? Or should I just not let it phase me? I literally want to block her number from his phone but she will call on Facebook I'm sure.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Talk to your boyfriend about it and make sure he understands that it's his mother and it's his responsibility to work it out. If he can't or won't, then you need to speak to his mom — calmly, respectfully — to let her know that her behavior is causing stress in your home and in your relationship. If she isn't willing or able to ameliorate her behavior, cut her off. You're under no obligation to speak to her or to have her in your home. She comes over anyway? Pack up the kids and go for a trip to the park. Remove yourself from the conflict.

That's really the key to something like this. Do not engage with the mom's drama or conflict. You do not have to fight with her. You do not have to convince her that you're right and she's wrong. Just step away from her entirely.