How did you go about starting over after divorce?

Mainly for fellow divorcees after ending long-term marriages.

Marriage changed and challenged me in so many ways. I can't see love the same way anymore. Not in a bad way, but realizing it isn't enough.

Starting another relationship which may also end like this doesn't bother me. It's better to appreciate the moment instead of worrying about uncertain futures.

There's a future I want, with someone, though it is very uncertain. It's possible it may not happen in this life.

It's a rarity finding decent people. Feels like the worlds changed so much. Or maybe my luck ran out. Who knows.

How did you do it? Where did you end up?

Thanks.

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It's a rarity finding decent people. Feels like the worlds changed so much. Or maybe my luck ran out. Who knows.

The problem I see here is your attitude. Most of us early in life do not know what love marriage is all about and just follow tradition and then blame other factors that had nothing to do with it.

If you say it's rarity finding decent people, you are not an exception either to the other.

Now that you have the experience in life and know what you seek in love or marriage and establish it clearly upfront. Hope you know it's so easy to come to an agreement using emails instead of oral promises that is not documented.

Create rather than expecting. If starting and ending is acceptable to you, so it's acceptable to many. Be open with an exit plan of how your partner can end the relationship.

No use asking others for relationships depend on your perspective to life. There is no one size fits all.

Or instead of looking for one.. look for as many. You have the age to your advantage. Solidify your proposal and you will see things happen your way. Bear is mind women look for stability in their partner and not someone who dilly dallies.