How did you go about starting over after divorce?

Mainly for fellow divorcees after ending long-term marriages.

Marriage changed and challenged me in so many ways. I can't see love the same way anymore. Not in a bad way, but realizing it isn't enough.

Starting another relationship which may also end like this doesn't bother me. It's better to appreciate the moment instead of worrying about uncertain futures.

There's a future I want, with someone, though it is very uncertain. It's possible it may not happen in this life.

It's a rarity finding decent people. Feels like the worlds changed so much. Or maybe my luck ran out. Who knows.

How did you do it? Where did you end up?

Thanks.

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Punches · 46-50, F

My ex and I had no assets nor much money so the divorce was simple. Neither of us was in any worse shape than before. Basically we just went about our own lives.

I was really depressed in the weeks leading up to the divorce... long story short, the day after everything was said and done and I woke up alone, I felt a sense of freedom that I have never felt in my life.

It was a cold day in February but the sun was bright, things were quiet, and I just felt like the world belonged to ME that day. Never again would I be nagged about how I want to live nor would I have to clean up after someone else.

I did date a few different people a couple years after divorce but nothing long term. I just do not want my life disrupted. I like to live a certain way and taking on someone else's baggage doesn't fit into my lifestyle.

You will be surprised at how quickly life becomes fun and peaceful again after divorce.