SORRY i know i keep complaining about the same thing but
this "done" was the most he's done to acknowledge what i've said when i try to explain things. and i didn't even know what it meant so i didn't respond.
his actions the last few months have shown our different morals.. and i just don't see him the same way anymore. on saturday he asked how i am and i said "the same" and he said he hopes i feel better. currently, it's early tuesday morning and we've never gone so long without talking
very sad. we've talked every day for... 3.5 years maybe? but i've been ready to let go too. just wish the circumstances were different. he was one of very few people who was there for me when my mom died. i had close to no one fr. even before her sudden passing i was in a very terribly low place and he was a big pillar of support. so even if i feel dumb for having ever dated him, disappointed in who he supports, it's still very hard. i feel distance is right but i feel an immense amount of guilt too. like he cares about me, and i want the best for him, is it wrong to ice him out? or does he only care about me because he still wants a relationship?
being alive is hard. knowing people is hard. i never know the right thing to do.
truly, im unfit to be human 🙏 i'm meant to be the soil in the woods. i don't want to hurt anyone.
Above all, be true to thyself. Know when to walk away. Know when a relationship is toxic. Love yourself enough to set boundaries and stick to them. What seems to be the end, may actually be the beginning of a new and better life for yourself. Never underestimate yourself and never attach yourself to someone who is emotionally unavailable. Take the hint. People do change so that doesn't mean the relationship will always be the same and we need to accept that. We don't need to drudge ourself through mud just because it feels comfortable and it's been that way for so long. It's time to move on. Time to close the last chapter so that you can begin the new. You'll be so much happier for it. Never try to force a circular object into a square peg. You'll just stay stuck in the same place. Love it yourself enough to move on and forgive everything. You'll be glad you did. Let go, and live. It's not our job to fix everything or anyone. This is something they have to work out for themselves. Be smart enough to recognize the red flags. The future is brighter than you think but you'll never know that as long as you keep looking in the rearview mirror. You're never a loser. God doesn't make losers. He just wants us to take good care of ourselves emotionally and physically and sometimes that means making the necessary changes. You can do this. ❤🤗🙏
That same guy? Oh girlie, I'm sorry you're still stuck with him. It's absolutely the right thing to move on and let him go. In fact, I'd recommend complete block and forget he ever existed.
It doesn't matter he helped you at one point, even if he gave you the world, if he's acting the way you disagree and feel uncomfortable (and we talked on who he supports is insane and he's NOT a good person) you move on and stop communicating.
A person that's good to you but bad to the rest of the world doesn't make him a good person instantly. He is good to you until he gets something, and you know that.
You're better than that. You're more worthy that any attention anyone gives to you. You deserve to be helped AND deserve to change your mind about anyone, even if it's not based on his actions. Remove yourself, regardless of your guilt. The guilt you feel is what you've been conditioned from baby and now you can't navigate the world without overly repaying every little good thing someone has done for you. No. You are worthy.
@greensnacks "A person that's good to you but bad to the rest of the world doesn't make him a good person instantly" i was trying to find a way to explain this but it never sounded right 🙏 thank you both
