My dad and others say my new boyfriend is taking advantage of me….

So I’ve been dating this guy for five month and I’m in love. Some people say love is blind which is true but we’re not blind.
My dad doesn’t like my boyfriend at all. I mean he was okay with him until two months ago.
He kept saying he sees a lot of red flags. He said we haven’t gone on dates in two months and he doesn’t seem happy with me anymore. He overheard that he’s been seeing other girls behind my back and he hasn’t shown love to me. He said he I should have chosen my guy (let’s call him Eddy) friend since he truly likes me.
I didn’t want to hear it and I asked my sister about it and she said dad has a point I better listen to him.
I know my boyfriend and I haven’t gone on dates or hung out in two months, he hasn’t called me back in three months. What a way to start the new year! I called and text him but I figured he was busy with work. My sister said, “Wake up! He is using you as an ATM, he doesn’t respond or respect you as a person and honestly he’s way out of your league.”
I scolded my sister to not talk trash about my brother and she said, “No you needed to hear it! I can’t believe you’re this naive. He doesn’t love you! He doesn’t care for you like Eddy does. Quite frankly, Eddy is a better man than your loser boyfriend.”
Eddy is my friend and I only see him that way.
I finally get happy and my dad, siblings and whoever don’t like him.

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justbob · 61-69, M

Your dad is right. Make a move on Eddy and reject the "boyfriend"

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@justbob I just realized I wrote dad. I mean to write my uncle.
I keep telling him, my sister and family that were just friends and stop pressuring me to go out with Eddy. He’s isn’t even my type of that cute. Even my friend said Eddy should have been my choice. I can choose my own guys! I don’t need people to choose for me.

justbob · 61-69, M

@LaylaTheTallGirl Whether he is cute or not is not the most important thing in choosing a partner. And Uncle is right.

I was friends with the woman who is now my wife before we started dating. We have been together for 30 years so I kind of think it could work out

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@justbob well good for you. Plus I’m sick of people telling me how to date. My uncle is getting frustrated with me but I don’t care

justbob · 61-69, M

@LaylaTheTallGirl The people who care about you just wish you would choose more wisely. Please do not lose patience with them.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@justbob We’ll My uncle is frustrated with me but I don’t care. He told me my dad would have wanted me to go out with Eddy. I remember my dad said the guy I want isn’t always the best one and guys I don’t want might be the right one for me. I’m not attracted to Eddy.
My sister told me she wasn’t attracted to her husband at first but she gave him a chance and now they’re married.

NativePortlander1970

@justbob She's just going to have to learn the hard way like so many other women who ignore warnings and red flags, whether it's constant cheating, beatings, or being ignored all the time, as her post indicates is already an issue.

NativePortlander1970

@justbob Plus in her post, and all over the other threads, she kept saying it was her father, and now it's her uncle, should we consider this post fake to garner attention?

justbob · 61-69, M

@NativePortlander1970 It's possible but she would be less likely to correct herself the way she did if the story was made up. And I have seen many of her other posts and she seemed sincere to me.

NativePortlander1970

@justbob I'll give the benefit of the doubt then.