my friend did a bad thing
and we've talked about it more than once. twice over text and once over a call i told him why i'm hurt about what he did. but he ignored everything i've said. i'm not very responsive towards him anymore and he's started asking me why and, maybe im being toxic by doing this? but i keep telling him i've talked to him about it more than once and i'm not going to explain it all over again.
he said that me repeating that isn't helping anyone and he needs details
i said "but why do i have to detail it again when i have several times already and was brushed off? that's not fair"
he dissmisses me by saying:
move on
your concerns aren't real
you are manifesting your sadness
or by altogether not responding to paragraphs of text detailing why i feel the way i do to say something unrelated
which even if i did detail everything again it wouldn't matter. what's done is done. i learned we have different fundamental morals. during our phonecall he tried to justify sexual assault by putting himself in an assaulters shoes and saying that if i wore a skirt around him he would look up my skirt. along with some other really awful things in that vein, like "well, was it rape or just sexual assault? well, how many girls was it?"
like how many does it need to be, bro?
those comments are what solidified my want to distance myself from him. but i had already been thinking about it because, as i get older, i realize our relationship was not a very good one. i was 22 and he was 47. i was an adult, and it was my decision to be with him. but our relationship kind if sucked. and i firmly believe today that there's no reason someone 35+ should be pursuing someone under 25, because the decision-making part of their brain is still developing
this is something i've noticed in life. being ignored until it's too late. the other most recent example was when i was dating my ex i kept telling him i can't handle conflict and he can't keep yelling at me for hours at a time. i hate it and i just can't handle it. but it kept happening so i broke up with him. and when i did he begged me for another chance together, because he didn't realize how important it was that we didn't fight the way we were.
why did i have to break up with you for you to consider the reasonable change i asked for?
why did i have to stop engaging in conversation for you to want to listen to me?
he said that me repeating that isn't helping anyone and he needs details
i said "but why do i have to detail it again when i have several times already and was brushed off? that's not fair"
he dissmisses me by saying:
move on
your concerns aren't real
you are manifesting your sadness
or by altogether not responding to paragraphs of text detailing why i feel the way i do to say something unrelated
which even if i did detail everything again it wouldn't matter. what's done is done. i learned we have different fundamental morals. during our phonecall he tried to justify sexual assault by putting himself in an assaulters shoes and saying that if i wore a skirt around him he would look up my skirt. along with some other really awful things in that vein, like "well, was it rape or just sexual assault? well, how many girls was it?"
like how many does it need to be, bro?
those comments are what solidified my want to distance myself from him. but i had already been thinking about it because, as i get older, i realize our relationship was not a very good one. i was 22 and he was 47. i was an adult, and it was my decision to be with him. but our relationship kind if sucked. and i firmly believe today that there's no reason someone 35+ should be pursuing someone under 25, because the decision-making part of their brain is still developing
this is something i've noticed in life. being ignored until it's too late. the other most recent example was when i was dating my ex i kept telling him i can't handle conflict and he can't keep yelling at me for hours at a time. i hate it and i just can't handle it. but it kept happening so i broke up with him. and when i did he begged me for another chance together, because he didn't realize how important it was that we didn't fight the way we were.
why did i have to break up with you for you to consider the reasonable change i asked for?
why did i have to stop engaging in conversation for you to want to listen to me?
