Update: Husband introduced me to someone

I posted about my husband approaching me about wanting me to be with other men. After getting a lot of good advice from people on here he and I have had much deeper and better conversations about the idea and I’ve come to understand better why he wants this and also believe that he is being very sincere and genuine about it

Since those conversations he has introduced me to a guy from his gym, he is an older gentleman, and we have only been texting so far. He seems like an incredibly kind, smart and sweet guy but I feel so nervous chatting with him. Not in a bad way but in that way you would feel when meeting someone new you are interested in.

I suppose these are normal feelings? Even more so considering the circumstances?

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JollyRoger · 70-79, M

Would you feel ok to share your husband's rationale for wanting you to do this?

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@JollyRoger so, I’m not exactly comfortable sharing this because I don’t want people to pile on him or me

But, the gist of it is that he says he knows he has never satisfied me sexually. And he admits that I’ve never said anything to make him feel that but he can tell and sense it by some things. I’ll leave it at that

JollyRoger · 70-79, M

@SatinPetals May I suggest that you take that 'revelation' back to him and offer to teach him how to pleasure you? There's more than one way to address this problem than for you to take the easy way out....That 'easy way' might be more emotionally painful to both of you afterwards...and you won't be able to step backwards from it.

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@JollyRoger I have. We’ve had lots of conversations around that over the years

JollyRoger · 70-79, M

@SatinPetals I'm glad that you did. The door is open then!