Update: Husband introduced me to someone

I posted about my husband approaching me about wanting me to be with other men. After getting a lot of good advice from people on here he and I have had much deeper and better conversations about the idea and I’ve come to understand better why he wants this and also believe that he is being very sincere and genuine about it

Since those conversations he has introduced me to a guy from his gym, he is an older gentleman, and we have only been texting so far. He seems like an incredibly kind, smart and sweet guy but I feel so nervous chatting with him. Not in a bad way but in that way you would feel when meeting someone new you are interested in.

I suppose these are normal feelings? Even more so considering the circumstances?

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Miram · 31-35, F

I have been in an open relationship before , not marriage.
This is something the two of you should have discussed before marriage.
And based on some of your replies, even now, you haven't discussed it properly. You don't have full understanding of why.
If a partner out of nowhere and without any existing marriage issues, suggests an open marriage from my part, even if it is their kink, my thought will be they are trying to catch me cheating to make divorce easier and take over my assets 👀

That aside, most women form bonds and emotional dependencies with those they have physical intimacy with. It will pose a lot of challenges in your relationship. It is not easy to love and care for two or three or four people at the same time. It is time consuming and can be emotionally draining if those connections end up being formed with excessively needy and clingy individuals.

I don't know, but I do think it is wiser to seek out emotional stability as you age, which can mean living a simpler life.

RSquared · 61-69, M

@Miram You are right on target with the statement that it is emotionally draining and takes great time and energy to love even two at once. I went through this myself, twenty five years ago.

I don’t actually think @SatinPetals is looking to be in love with another man however. If she stated that I missed it. She is considering acquiescing to her husband’s desire that she have sex with another man. I know, or rather read, that this is not purely uncommon. Although I have never understood that aspect. I can understand believing in polyamorous relationships. But not strictly to see my partner get in bed with someone else. I’m old fashioned I reckon.