Update: Husband introduced me to someone

I posted about my husband approaching me about wanting me to be with other men. After getting a lot of good advice from people on here he and I have had much deeper and better conversations about the idea and I’ve come to understand better why he wants this and also believe that he is being very sincere and genuine about it

Since those conversations he has introduced me to a guy from his gym, he is an older gentleman, and we have only been texting so far. He seems like an incredibly kind, smart and sweet guy but I feel so nervous chatting with him. Not in a bad way but in that way you would feel when meeting someone new you are interested in.

I suppose these are normal feelings? Even more so considering the circumstances?

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TexChik · F

I am too traditional about my marriage. If my husband did suddenly disrespect me and my fidelity to him and wanted to pimp me out to his friends he would find himself divorced. Question is, who is your husband wanting to have sex with that he would be willing to give you away to justify it?

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@TexChik I’ve asked and pressed him on this as our conversations have progressed and he assures me no one. He is too insecure about things and has no desire to be with other women

Blondily · F

@TexChik I agree with you on this!

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@Blondily I can certainly understand this perspective for sure.

FelicityDavenport · 26-30, F

@SatinPetals 'Insecure' brings up red flags! That's a worry. He thinks less of himself? Is this going to be the best action for him and you? Hmmmmmm

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@FelicityDavenport that is what gave me pause for the longest time with this. And I’ve talked to him deeply about this in particular, he continuously reassures me it will not be an issue, I have pushed and pushed on this with him for a while but I feel it is genuinely not going to be an issue

Magenta · F

@TexChik Indeed.

FelicityDavenport · 26-30, F

@SatinPetals As long as you both know. Imagination is one thing, reality is another. I hook, myself, and have had numerous men say they were fine...for a time...until the green eyed monster came out. Understandable. I totally get it. But it strains both you as individuals as well as the relationship.

SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F

@FelicityDavenport I've had a few moments like that with Ade, but we have got through it. it does take a special person, @SatinPetals.

Sarah 💋