Update: Husband introduced me to someone

I posted about my husband approaching me about wanting me to be with other men. After getting a lot of good advice from people on here he and I have had much deeper and better conversations about the idea and I’ve come to understand better why he wants this and also believe that he is being very sincere and genuine about it

Since those conversations he has introduced me to a guy from his gym, he is an older gentleman, and we have only been texting so far. He seems like an incredibly kind, smart and sweet guy but I feel so nervous chatting with him. Not in a bad way but in that way you would feel when meeting someone new you are interested in.

I suppose these are normal feelings? Even more so considering the circumstances?

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Stuffy · 61-69, F

You are being pushed into this by your husband. Why?

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@Stuffy not pushed into it. He approached me about it a while ago and we’ve just now gotten to the point where I am open to the idea

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@SatinPetals pressured. This is something you would never have thought of doing yourself? How does this fit in with your plan of your marriage?

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@Stuffy it’s hard to say. There have been moments when I’ve thought of what it would be like to be with other men

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@SatinPetals ok Lots of people think about things that they would do. But still wouldn’t choose to do. remember you’re in charge of you. It’s up to you.

I would really want to understand why he wants this- I guess he’s told you. I might also want a professional opinion about this.

Thewhazzupdude

@SatinPetals

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@Thewhazzupdude cannot love that anymore, thank you

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Thewhazzupdude I’m not interested in making sense of this for my curiosity. I’m interested in her making sense of this for herself. And she’s asking if her feelings are normal. She is asking a community and has already gotten advise that has encouraged this to progress. So I’m not sure what this comment is doing in the part of the thread that is between her and me.
SatinPetals- I recommend that women get advise about these kinds of things from women- real women not internet people who might be man, woman or something in between.

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@Stuffy I appreciate that and have gotten a lot from women through DM that has been very helpful