Just trying to understand how people process matters of the heart....

I'm sure that most of us have encountered heartbreak in our lives whether it be in a relationship, marriage or even if you had feelings for someone but they never felt the same, or whatever other reason it may be. Some have experienced more than others. How did you manage to get through it and move on, have you managed to get through it? How has it affected you or changed you as a person for the better or worst?

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hartfire · 61-69

The first was the hardest for me. I broke it off because his former de facto had returned, demanded he choose between us, and he said he couldn't choose and wanted to drown himself.
I was profoundly depressed for six months afterwards.
The pain acted like an innoculation. I never again gave my heart with such abandon, never again felt that incredible high of being in-love with a person, the whole world, with life itself.
I did form other serial, one-at-a-time, long term relationships, the last being my current mate of 42 years -- but it's friendship and companionship, nothing romantic about it. And I've decided that's a better way to live.