Just trying to understand how people process matters of the heart....

I'm sure that most of us have encountered heartbreak in our lives whether it be in a relationship, marriage or even if you had feelings for someone but they never felt the same, or whatever other reason it may be. Some have experienced more than others. How did you manage to get through it and move on, have you managed to get through it? How has it affected you or changed you as a person for the better or worst?

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Good question, for me having been in an abusive relationship, I first had to learn as much as possible to understand them, why they were the way they are, I spent years researching before I even ended it, this helped me prepare myself and how he’d react.

Then after I avoided the healing process by using different coping mechanisms to avoid the feelings and pain I felt, this just prolonged it, I then spent a good two years just feeling it all, I went into isolation and pushed pretty much everyone away from me.

I had to deal with childhood trauma and healing from a lot of stuff, I spoke to people that hurt me growing up as a kid.
This gave me a lot of closure, it was probably beginning of this year I started to feel great again.

It all changed me for the best, I’m glad I went through it all and believe everything happens for a reason looking back.