Saucylover · 26-30, F
rawandauthentic · 46-50, F
I feel you. I'm doing long distance and it kinda sucks. Especially the time difference. The depression gets me too when he's not as available.
It helps if I distract myself with ither things and I constantly give myself little pep talks and reminders that he feels the same way as I do and he can't switch off his feelings, just as much as I cant switch off mine.
So even if we havent had much talk time or texting, the love is still there. I'm sure she feels the same about you too. Big positive is you know exactly what is happening with her ie she's sick and working more. Communication is so important and seems like you have that.
It helps if I distract myself with ither things and I constantly give myself little pep talks and reminders that he feels the same way as I do and he can't switch off his feelings, just as much as I cant switch off mine.
So even if we havent had much talk time or texting, the love is still there. I'm sure she feels the same about you too. Big positive is you know exactly what is happening with her ie she's sick and working more. Communication is so important and seems like you have that.
rawandauthentic · 46-50, F
@KiwiDan I totally get it. I will give you the tip my therapist gave me today. She said not to put all my eggs in one basket. So basically she was saying to find other things that interest me and give me joy and can take up some of that spare time I have now that he is not around as much. It doesn't change the relationship or the love, it just gives you stuff to do outside of it, so you're looking at her as your love and not your crutch to get you through your depression etc. I tend to be like that and can invest all of me into someone so that it consumes me, so I'm trying to unlearn that while still giving all my love.