I've realized that...

I'm becoming too attached (emotionally, psychologically, intrinsically) to the people that i work with. I feel like I have the "dream job", but it's not. and I've been searching for that so called myth for years. as well as relationships, friendships, acquaintances and even people within my family. it's a myth. I've become so numb and jaded that I love it, but I hate it.

I keep trying to substitute people who are supposed to care about me, with people who honestly don't see me as a person - but as a person for their mere convenience. as if though I was created for them.
however, I'm not mad. not angry; and I don't feel entitled for whatever I think I'm "owed" for anything. no. fuck that.

I'm becoming too attached to people. people who don't see me as they see themselves: a person.

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hartfire

There are skills one can learn to create the kinds of connections you want.
However, one only has time for a few deep connections, because depth takes regular and plentiful time in skilled communication and shared experiences.
One can achieve it at work, so well that if one left the job they would remain a friend. Helps if you see them outside work.
"Dream jobs" are rare. Money is paid precisely because no one (or very few) would do it for little or nothing. Also, beware the dream. Perfect is impossible: excellent is rare. Ordinary is the norm, full of ups, downs and boring same-sames.
Contentment comes from the inside, how we frame (interpret) our experience.
Something not always pleasant can be worthwhile if working for specific values or towards specific goals.
No friend can ever be exactly what we hope for (which changes over time anyway), but several friends can each meet different needs. Frindship requires that we're willing and happy to give what the other needs, at least half the time.

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

I have work friends meaning their friends and work but beyond that, no.

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