Why would my boyfriend not delete all messages with his ex?

We broke up for 4 months and tried to move o man she had a girlfriend for a month or so and he didn’t delete all the messages. I shouldn’t have went through his phone, but it was just there. I’m not going to tell him or bring this up. I have already done it before and told him and he wasn’t too happy, and can’t blame him because it looks like I don’t trust him. Also, he seemed to be more flirtatious with her than me so now I want to die, lol. But it’s my own fault.

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Katie01 · F

People who don't stay friends with their exes are so weird to me. People who have a problem with their partners doing it are even worse. I hope he leaves you for her

VentingQueen23 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 I’m sure you must be the other woman if you say something like that. You seem like a mean girl too. I hope
You can change your ways. I have mental health issues and trust issues, that he has created. He said I can look too, but I try not to.

Katie01 · F

@VentingQueen23 I'm in a long term relationship and we're both completely loyal and exclusive. I'm friends with almost all of my exes and my best friend is actually my bf's ex.

I'm not mean, I'm just honest. You're clearly a toxic towards him and it sounds like he's toxic towards you. You should break up and let him be with the better girl.

VentingQueen23 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 how do you know she’s better? He said she was worse. I think you are used to being attractive and beautiful, it makes you look at life differently. I’m not the typical looking “attractive” women so there is a difference you don’t understand and never will. I appreciate your point of view. But I can’t apply it to me. Enjoy your beauty, I hope you use it for good.

Katie01 · F

@VentingQueen23 he clearly liked her more than you cos otherwise he wouldn't have got with her at all out of respect to you.
Just cos I'm beautiful doesn't mean I don't understand.
So if you're controlling, untrusting, and ugly, what exactly are you bringing to the relationship?
Tbh I've been known to use my beauty for both good and evil

VentingQueen23 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 we were broken up. I said what I did was wrong. I was just wondering what a reason would be. He can go through my phone anytime. I hope you use it more for good.

Katie01 · F

@VentingQueen23 why does he need a reason for keeping the messages? I spend time with and talk to my exes all the time. You need to stop being so toxic if you want him to stay with you

VentingQueen23 · 26-30, F

@Katie01 I don’t like that you are using the word toxic, I don’t think it’s completely accurate, but I see your point. There doesn’t need to be a reason. He can do what he wants. All I do is hurt myself anyway. I am hoping I learned my lesson this time and don’t look again.