Help Needed!

I feel my partner and I have drifted apart and I'm wondering if there is anything more to it than that on her part. I have already drafted a list of things I want to ask but I want to do it in a way that I can get the honest answers.
I am going to pre warn her and ask if she is ready to talk and whatever her answers are I will still treat her the same and do the things for her that I had promised (such as her tax return which she doesn't like doing) in the hope that this allows her to be honest.
The things I'm asking so far are:
How does she see our relationship
Has she been with or dated anybody else (the obvious one)

Does anybody have any ideas of what else to include or how to ask a specific question?
I don't want to upset her as she is a good person even if it does turn out she has been doing things I don't like.

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GeniUs · 56-60, M

So here it is:
She dropped into my house for a coffee when she finished work and we went to my bedroom and just lay on the bed talking, after about half an hour I asked the question, "are we a couple?"
"No, we're too different."
So let me put it in perspective, we do everything that couples do but we aren't a couple. We're not in a relationship, we're exclusive to each other sex wise which is about once a week we still do things for each other that really only couples do but we're just friends.
I have to say I was shocked to find out this was her view of it but she says she's not looking for anybody else.
I'm a relationship guy and this has been a bit of a shock to me, we still have a week or so of plans together nothing special just things I wouldn't do for anybody else, meals together that sort of thing.
I'm trying to think of the right word for how she came across- 'confidant' not really the word I'm looking for but she left with the same energy she arrived with.
10/10 needed to know but really puzzled about the answer.

Pinkstarburst · F

@GeniUs Sex and relationships are two very different things. She was honest with you and now you know. Your next step is to decide if you want FWB, but since you’re emotionally, I wouldn’t recommend it.

Fact: You spent time with someone and now it’s over. Grieve and the. Move forward.