Help Needed!

I feel my partner and I have drifted apart and I'm wondering if there is anything more to it than that on her part. I have already drafted a list of things I want to ask but I want to do it in a way that I can get the honest answers.
I am going to pre warn her and ask if she is ready to talk and whatever her answers are I will still treat her the same and do the things for her that I had promised (such as her tax return which she doesn't like doing) in the hope that this allows her to be honest.
The things I'm asking so far are:
How does she see our relationship
Has she been with or dated anybody else (the obvious one)

Does anybody have any ideas of what else to include or how to ask a specific question?
I don't want to upset her as she is a good person even if it does turn out she has been doing things I don't like.

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

First of all, be ready for the answers, and if she has stepped out on you, what will you do?

I think most relationship come down to what you need from each other, so be sure you both say what it is you need. I will be doing this myself soon.

GeniUs · 56-60, M

@uncalled4 Unfaithfulness is a deal breaker for me but I would want to stay as friends. It's weird, as an X gen guy I find it hard telling her I love her but I do having said that you can't let somebody cheat as it just sets you up for a lot of heartache.
(Asking her what she needs is a good point, I might start with that).

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@GeniUs Ask about your needs too. Never had an issue with the L word, but that's me. I also don't stay friends with exes; I have platonic women friends for that. But everyone swims differently.