The great dilemma....I don't want to have children?

In this economy. I'm afraid I won't be able to give them the best when they deserve it. My boyfriend and I have had a severe disagreement on this. As much as I really love him, I think this will end things between us. I'm extremely depressed. I don't want to leave him. Yet it's been an extremely rocky week. Probably the worst one. I feel horrible. I handled it very poorly as well.

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LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F

No kids unless he can provide for them. Has he started creating a savings acc for future kids? Has he made any investment acc? If he isn't understanding the financial concerns you have, seems like he wants to just breed or at the very least, just not thinking it through. A lot of men (my husband included) say they want a big family but just aren't ready or in the place for it. If your financial situation was different would u want kids or is it still a no? Honestly if u really love him you could make it work but be honest with urself, if u don't want kids at all then from an outside perspective then you guys aren't compatible

turningthekeys · 31-35, F

@LittleBallOfFire we basically don't have any savings, i just started my career. So did he. And both of us have modest salaries. We don;t have any assets of our own. I don't think having a child in this scenario is worth it. It's unfair for the child. He believes "one can raise a child with limited resources" but it couldn't be farther than the truth. I asked him to give me an estimate of what is a baseline of a monthly expense of a child. To that, he called me "materialistic". How tf does that make me materialistic?

Adrift · 61-69, F

@turningthekeys Realistic not materialistic.

LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F

@turningthekeys ooof red flag. I mean honestly he is not mature enough to be a father. It is not materialistic to not want to struggle.

LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F

@turningthekeys it seems like he likes the idea of having a baby and having his offspring. But being a father and being able to provide for them he is clearly not ready for