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Is it normal to insist not telling someone your story until you meet ?

The man I am talking to right now is telling me that he needs to see me in person in order to tell me «everything» because doing this on social media is not very « convenient»
The thing is, yesterday I discovered that he was married and he has two children from his previous marriage. Plus he is a man who moves a lot so he is willing to live in Japan next years for professional reasons.
It’s been exactly 11 days that we are calling each other, talking… I told him everything about my life and my past but he never waited a minute telling me. All what he have been saying: I need to see you face to face in order to tell you all about it.
But I said everything on the phone? Why is that make it any different ?
I accidentally discovered all theses informations about his previous life and I was shocked! Why didn’t I ask him before? I feel stupid because I am now on a stage where I started to have real feelings and we started talking about the house and kids.. he says that we will get married before going “to live in Japan”
I am thinking about ending all this crap because my head is burning so bad and I need energy to put it somewhere else!
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in10RjFox · M
It's not normal. It's a kinda gaslighting tactics to lure the person in stages where are too into the slush and can't jump out. An entrapment like a not so quick sand.

It's better to chop the relationship as he could be a perpetual negotiator who will keep making promise after promise only to break them , as they keep changing their terms using our memory that forgetful.