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Is it normal to insist not telling someone your story until you meet ?

The man I am talking to right now is telling me that he needs to see me in person in order to tell me «everything» because doing this on social media is not very « convenient»
The thing is, yesterday I discovered that he was married and he has two children from his previous marriage. Plus he is a man who moves a lot so he is willing to live in Japan next years for professional reasons.
It’s been exactly 11 days that we are calling each other, talking… I told him everything about my life and my past but he never waited a minute telling me. All what he have been saying: I need to see you face to face in order to tell you all about it.
But I said everything on the phone? Why is that make it any different ?
I accidentally discovered all theses informations about his previous life and I was shocked! Why didn’t I ask him before? I feel stupid because I am now on a stage where I started to have real feelings and we started talking about the house and kids.. he says that we will get married before going “to live in Japan”
I am thinking about ending all this crap because my head is burning so bad and I need energy to put it somewhere else!
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DrWatson · 70-79, M
If he is being secretive about being married, that is pretty disgusting.

But, in general, I am also someone who would rather be face-to-face before sharing intimate details, so the two of us can be attuned to things like vocal inflections and facial expressions. Not to mention positive developments like holding hands or hugging in response.

But of course, I am an "old guy" and did not grow up with texting and messaging as the norm.