Damm I love my husband
I was feeling sad and like I wasn't really getting attention tonight. I was sitting being gloomy and writing about it and maybe going to post about not feeling super connected to him. But then....I remembered o wait we have a healthy relationship and I can just talk to him about it lmao. So I was just like sometimes I feel worried you find me boring and I didn't feel like you were really taking notice of me much today. And we just talked it out. I realized I was often taking things personally when he was just totally exhausted from work (he has a hard physical and mental labor job that he has to work in the heat at) and having gotten up super early at the end of the day. So he can't think of much to say once night time rolls around and just wants to zone out on his phone. So we figured out solutions like spending quality time together before it got too late and we planned a fun day of activities together tomorrow since it is a weekend. We then just laid together and talked about whatever in bed. It was nice.
My own parents never address issues with each other. They will have huge fights and then act totally normal the next day and not bring it up to each other at all. They would bring it up like....to me 😑 And made me play marital counselor. Blegh.
It makes me feel very happy. That my relationship is NOT my parents'. We treat each other with kindness and respect....and when we are upset about something the other has done or feel not great about something in the relationship....we just talk about it with each other and work it through. He is my rock 😊 He ain't perfect....neither am I but....we love each other and are dedicated to one another to where we will put our all into finding solutions for any issues we may come across. I feel so lucky to have him 🥰
Keys to a happy relationship I feel like. Is being a person your partner feels safe to bring up issues to and being willing to address those issues and push through any defensiveness on your part. Realizing that at times one of you may need more support than the other and it may not always be 50/50. Treating each other with respect even during arguments and knowing when to walk away and cool off before proceeding....making an effort to actively listen....communicating directly in regards to needs and not bottling things up. Being able and willing to compromise. Take interest in your partner's interests and support their hobbies or passions or career. Celebrate their accomplishments. Be mindful of your partner's unique struggles and how you can best support them through them. Make time to just be with one another and enjoy each other's company. And of course...you should enjoy each other's company 😆 Both partners doing this for each other makes for a good relationship I feel like! I mean there's really like a billion things that can go into having a healthy happy relationship but those are some key takeaways anyways lol.
My own parents never address issues with each other. They will have huge fights and then act totally normal the next day and not bring it up to each other at all. They would bring it up like....to me 😑 And made me play marital counselor. Blegh.
It makes me feel very happy. That my relationship is NOT my parents'. We treat each other with kindness and respect....and when we are upset about something the other has done or feel not great about something in the relationship....we just talk about it with each other and work it through. He is my rock 😊 He ain't perfect....neither am I but....we love each other and are dedicated to one another to where we will put our all into finding solutions for any issues we may come across. I feel so lucky to have him 🥰
Keys to a happy relationship I feel like. Is being a person your partner feels safe to bring up issues to and being willing to address those issues and push through any defensiveness on your part. Realizing that at times one of you may need more support than the other and it may not always be 50/50. Treating each other with respect even during arguments and knowing when to walk away and cool off before proceeding....making an effort to actively listen....communicating directly in regards to needs and not bottling things up. Being able and willing to compromise. Take interest in your partner's interests and support their hobbies or passions or career. Celebrate their accomplishments. Be mindful of your partner's unique struggles and how you can best support them through them. Make time to just be with one another and enjoy each other's company. And of course...you should enjoy each other's company 😆 Both partners doing this for each other makes for a good relationship I feel like! I mean there's really like a billion things that can go into having a healthy happy relationship but those are some key takeaways anyways lol.
