Do I still love my ex?

I haven’t felt ready to date since breaking up with my ex. I think I might still love him, but yet I never want to get back together with him cause I hate how he treated me and cause me much anxiety by hiding things and betrayal. Why do I feel like I can't date anyone else, even though I know in my heart and mind I don’t want to date him again? I also talk to him sometimes as friends so I don’t know if that is hindering me from moving on. Thoughts?

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naughtyone123 · 51-55, M

I can tell you that a big break up leaves you conflicted. If things weren't so great it actually helps. Sometimes you don't really realize that it wasn't so great. An abusive relationship can be that way. It's only when you step away from it that you realize all of what was not right. I can tell you I had a huge break up and when I was able to gain perspective, I realized that it was the best thing that could've happened to me.

Either way you may not be ready. There's nothing wrong with that. And it may have nothing to do with whether you're still hooked on your ex or not.