Do I still love my ex?

I haven’t felt ready to date since breaking up with my ex. I think I might still love him, but yet I never want to get back together with him cause I hate how he treated me and cause me much anxiety by hiding things and betrayal. Why do I feel like I can't date anyone else, even though I know in my heart and mind I don’t want to date him again? I also talk to him sometimes as friends so I don’t know if that is hindering me from moving on. Thoughts?

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JamesBugman · 56-60, T

I went through the same thing with my X-GF. I had this thought that maybe something would happen that would bring us back together again. I dated another lady and then failed at sex because it felt like I was cheating. Meanwhile, my X was dating other guys all over the place and had long forgotten about me.
I ended up moving out of the country where her influence did not affect me, and then my life returned to normal.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@JamesBugman that’s exactly how I feel too. I feel like I’m betraying him but I’m confused cause I don’t want to date him. But I don’t want anyone else. Any advice?

JamesBugman · 56-60, T

@Fifidog You need a clear break from it. You cannot be anywhere near this person for a few years so you can forget about them. Love it like drinking coffee, your body gets used to it and then its really hard to stop. Withdrawals are a b_tch, but that is what you need. Cold Turkey. move someplace far away, do not provide him your contact info. Delete all social media that associates the two of you. Once the coffee influence is gone, you can date again.