Rant,sad,Advice!??? Idk….

So yesterday I found out that some girl at my husbands work gave him her number and he text her and he said they just flirted I couldn’t actually see the messages… other than the ones he didn’t delete at the end something like “I decided I can’t go threw with this I don’t want to break my family over lust” it’s the 3rd time he’s done something like this. Non the less I’ve decided in time I can probably heal and get over this I mean we have 2 boys together and I don’t want to leave him over this. After all people arnt perfect and he did choose me and his family over and affair… but I hate that it even come that close to making a choice… his coworkers were encouraging him and he even went as far as to try to download app hiders and stuff which is how I found out.

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Ontheroad · M

Okay, and this is from a man who has lived a long time, known many men, worked with hundreds of them, and has seen pretty much every type of relationship train wreck from its first stage until the head-on collision.

Given nothing changes, this behavior will continue and it will end up with him physically cheating. He is giving off signs (also flirting), etc., that he is available and looking, or he would not get into these almost did it situations.

If you don't talk to him about this, he will not change, and it may take more than talking... like marriage counseling or individual counseling, etc.

There are no excuses/reasons good enough, valid enough, or acceptable for this type of behavior.

Nip it in the bud.

hunkalove · 70-79, M

@Ontheroad Just like Thelma Lou did to Barney and Juanita.