If a friend cancels a lunch and drinks plan because they suddenly have a Tinder date, how will you feel

I had this experience with a friend and frankly I feel taken for granted. I told the person he can re-schedule the Tinder date but instead they cancel our lunch plan which we had planned 2-3 weeks ahead

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iamnikki · 31-35, F

I hate when people do that.
I try my best not to cancel on people.
If I do cancel, I will certainly ask them when they are available next and do it then.

I also can't stand when people cancel plans, and offer no suggestions or make no attempts to reschedule.
It's shows lack of interest and complete disregard for other people.

I've been chatting with a new acquaintance for a few weeks. I had invited her to hang out once. She couldn't make it. Didn't try to make any suggestions.
We kept exchanging messages, then I hadn't heard from her for a full 7 days.

She claims being busy at work.
Last time I checked, people clicked out for work and/or got breaks every single day.

In my opinion, you don't make an acquaintance into a friend by ignoring their message for a week.
I'm not gonna talk to her anymore

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Elisbch · M

@iamnikki ... It's too bad but I agree.

Punches · 46-50, F

@iamnikki Sometimes trying to be social feels like a chore. It has nothing to do with anyone else except the person who has a hard time keeping up their end of the exchange.

Even though it can feel personal, we cannot take it that way.