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Do you think it's a bad thing asking for time alone?

My partner initially wanted to spend lots of time with me which was nice, then we got into a routine Wednesday night after work and Friday to Saturday night or Sunday morning.

Anyways in recent weeks he's had more time and been spending longer days.

My dogs been sick since Monday, initially he offered to sit with him but I told him not to as I would he home by 2pm and I can see him on the camera.
(he has a dog of his own he should look after her incase it's contagious)
After I spoke to the vet they offered me an appointment for Thursday which I told him but in tge mean time a soft diet and prebiotic.


This week though he's been a lot less chatty and texting more again. Anyways he mentioned he wouldn't be dropping by on the Wednesday but instead would come over on the Thursday, he wanted to catch up with some friends.


I reluctantly agreed.

Today I told him dog was sick again, he's been rather quiet and slow to text back. I also broke my mirror, the wind was rather strong and I was trying to catch an empty glass bottle before it fell off the side, I didn't catch the bottle in time but kicked the mirror so it smashed.

As it was fairly cheap I ordered it instantly. I will pick that up tomorrow.
I mentioned that and said I was awaiting the 3rd thing.

In the afternoon he texts to ask the appointment time, he called as I had been quiet and not texting.
I had a headache was feeling frustrated and worried about my dog. He then drops that he will be round on Friday. So I said to him really why? I thought you were coming round today. Maybe I'm getting my days confused.
So he tells me he told me Friday because he wanted to see he friends. So I straight up said Friday and Thursday are 2 different days and I know my hearing isn't bad.
I also wondered if he'd meet me or just stay at mine when I was going to the vets. But reassured myself because he has a key.

This isn't the first time he's claimed that I have heard him wrong. I'm not sure why he needs to do this if his plans change be honest, either way consequently I've asked him not to come round this weekend.

I'm tired, it's been a xhit week. I just want to rest and do nothing. Tbh.
I also don't feel the need to explain...
4meAndyou · F
You can actually tell him you need a little bit of alone time, too. Tell him you've had a sh!t week and you just need to catch up with yourself.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Do you think it's a bad thing asking for time alone?
- No, and you don't even need to explain why.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
I think you both need to re-evaluate where you are and what you want from your relationship.
Never good if you're the one being sidelined because he wants to be independent.

Hope you have good news on your dog soon
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Picklebobble2
It's small but it's significant and I don't like it. I know I've been tired and stressed but why would I not miss here anything else he's told me. This isn't the first time he's done this.

The relationship is something I want, the time for him to see friends isn't normal. So I had no issue but it bothers me that maybe he wasn't able to see them earlier in the week and now plans may have changed he's acting like he said one thing instead of the other.
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Pinkstarburst I'll use a telephone for that if I need to.
I think space is good.

But I hear you. Thank you..

 
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