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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Now I mean this with the greatest possible respect, so read the words carefully and let them sink in before you dismiss them.. You broke up with and possibly hurt this girl on the basis of something you "thought". Then suggested you both break contact completely, again because of something you thought. And now you feel uncomfortable with how things are and YOU need closure??? So you want to contact her again to get that..
If I am even close to right, then you are at best a fool..At worst, a selfish idiot.. And either way you deserve to feel uncomfortable. You initiated and pushed through the terms of the break up. If you were correct on every count, the last thing she wants to to hear from you.. It you were wrong you hurt her and she deserves better than to hear from you again. Be a man and wear it..😷
@whowasthatmaskedman [c=800055]Well written .

Thank you. 🍁[/c]
Danna · 26-30, M
@whowasthatmaskedman I understand your perspective, but you don't know the full story or how I arrived at the decision to cut contact.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@Danna I can only go by what you said. And frankly, your conduct as described so far is not confidence inspiring. My advice is to leave the poor girl alone. Whatever problem you have, its yours and should remain yours.😷

LadyBronte · 56-60, F
Don't rip up her life and heart again or destroy the peace she's made for herself since you cut her out of your life, simply because you seek "closure" for something you did. Leave the girl alone.
gregloa · 61-69, M
At this point, she’s probably already blocked your number or deleted it. She most likely will not respond to your text. Think about it. She’s been done with you since she started cheating. Move on. You already have all the closure you’re going to get from her. Stop wasting your time. There’s plenty of fish.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
If you reach out to her your closure is your expectation . It is impossible to have a closure with no expectations in this scenerio.

You sated that you asked her multiple times before your last talk. she has much less of an incentitive to tell you anything a month later than she did when you two were together.

If you need to get your feelings off your chest journal or talk to a female friend of yours or something/ maybe join a relationship support group (if those exist?)

if you go back after an ex with the expectation of closure a month after not geting it the last time and a month after not talking I can confidently say you won't find what you are looking for and it will be your rambling monologue that she will forgot 10 seconds afte you finish putting it together as opposed to a dialog.
Ynotisay · M
Don't do that. That's selfish. Just let her do her thing and you do yours. You can move on without making someone else probably feel bad in the process.
ArtieKat · M
I'm in total agreement with @whowasthatmaskedman - although to be perfectly honest I think you @Danna are an alt of someone who keeps on posting questions like this.
RedBaron · M
Don’t. She owes you nothing. Just let it go.
Danna · 26-30, M
@RedBaron As I mentioned, I'm not contacting her for explanations, I'm simply doing it to express my feelings and believe it would help me move on. I have no expectations from her whatsoever.
RedBaron · M
@Danna Then consider writing a letter to express your feelings and not sending it. You have no reason to expect her to want to give you any time or emotional energy.

Then let it go.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
Don't. Just ignore him.
Justice4All · 36-40, M
@BittersweetPotato But I thought it was a she....
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Justice4All oh i wasn't paying attention. I had just finished a run on the treadmill lol
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@BittersweetPotato i also read their username as Donna which is probably 2hy i went for him lol
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
I think it is just time for u to move on. She doesn't care about closer
Badjujubee · 46-50, F
Don’t bother trying for closure. Just keep going on in your own direction and life.
Dirtyboyy67 · 56-60, M
Drink two 40s
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