How Should I Approach Reaching Out to My Ex for Closure Without Expectations?

It's been one month since we last spoke. I was the one who suggested that we cut contact because I believed she was no longer interested in me and had met someone. When I told her that we should cut contact, it took her by surprise, but she didn't try to explain herself, even though I asked her multiple times before we had our last talk.

Now, one month later, I'm still not able to move on because I feel like I haven't said the things I wanted to say to her. I want to text her to express how I felt and what I believe went wrong between us. I'm not texting to get her to explain herself or to win her back or anything like that. Honestly, I don't even care if she replies or not. The only reason I want to text her is because I believe it will help me move on if I say the things I want to say instead of bottling them up. I'll make sure to tell her that I'm not expecting anything from her so that she doesn't feel uncomfortable or anything like that.

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robertsnj · 56-60, M

If you reach out to her your closure is your expectation . It is impossible to have a closure with no expectations in this scenerio.

You sated that you asked her multiple times before your last talk. she has much less of an incentitive to tell you anything a month later than she did when you two were together.

If you need to get your feelings off your chest journal or talk to a female friend of yours or something/ maybe join a relationship support group (if those exist?)

if you go back after an ex with the expectation of closure a month after not geting it the last time and a month after not talking I can confidently say you won't find what you are looking for and it will be your rambling monologue that she will forgot 10 seconds afte you finish putting it together as opposed to a dialog.