Advice please

Someone is asking me for advice and I need to ask you guys first. Good, kind advice only.

Mary and Jane are cousins.

Jane divorced six years ago.

Mary recently texted the ex husband of Jane recently (six years later) to say she was sorry she hadn’t sent this message six years ago, but she wanted him to know she was sorry things didn’t work out and she wished him well.

Jane found out Mary reached out to the ex while the ex called Mary back in the presence of Jane and her new husband. But Mary didn’t answer the call. it was Siri that announced the caller.

Jane phoned Mary later that evening snd asked why Mary reached out to the ex all these years later. Jane said the ex had not been the nice guy everyone thought he had been and that she left him because he had been abusive but didn’t feel the need to announce it to the world

Mary got defensive and wouldn’t listen to Jane’s point of view and the call ended on bad terms

Now Mary is calling me asking for advice and I need some backup plans from you guys before I return that call

Thanks in advance.

I hate being dragged into stuff and I won’t take sides

IM5688 · 61-69, M

It sounds like Mary, even after six years, has a possible crush, (for lack of a better word,) on Jane's ex. What other reason could she have for waiting six years and then becoming so upset with Jane and her point of view?

Now, even if my above statements are way off, I'd be interested in why, after being divorced six years, why is Jane so bent out of shape that Mary is communicating with her ex?

I know this doesn't give you the advice you were seeking, but since you were dragged into it, maybe knowing the answers to my questions might be beneficial in solving your problem.