What’s a good way to start contact with an estranged loved one?

My sister hates me bc I held her accountable for a huge (financial) misktake she made with my other sister (quite young, disabled) that lead to courts getting involved for pretty much 3 years (Long story). But some time has passed and I think blood is thicker than water. I don’t wanna die one day knowing I didn’t even try to correct the situation. I always think about her. She has never tried to reach out. I know she will never forgive me and I know she won’t accept a coffee invite or a lunch date- that’s too much to start. I bet she wouldn’t even answer her phone if were me calling. I’m blocked from all social media but I know she hasn’t blocked text or email. Any ideas of what can I do or say?

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ArtieKat · M

[quote]I know she will never forgive me[/quote] If that [i][b]really[/b][/i] is the case - and a stranger on SW can't know that - then there's nothing you can do or say. On the other hand, if you believe there's a chance of reconciliation then write to her - and I mean an old-fashioned letter - telling her that despite everything that's happened she is still your sister, neither of you are getting any younger, and that you won't stop loving her.

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

@ArtieKat this is a good idea. I mean it’s not like email or text where I’d be disappointed if she didn’t reply bc I know even in the best of times she wouldn’t write back lol. Even if she wanted me leave her alone she wouldn’t write back. Yet I’ve opened the door a bit. The worst she could do is return the mail back to me unread but I don’t think that will happen.